This might end up as one of those posts that you quit reading after the first few sentences. But, I'm gonna do it anyway. So if it gets so boring you want to scream, just quit. It won't hurt my feelings.
Something has been going on in our family for the last five years that actually has roots that go back for about five years before that. You see, my wife some where acquired a wind chime. Rather small, with sunflowers painted on it. For some crazy reason she thought it would be a good idea to hang it above our sink (in our old house). And there it hung for years.
I hated it from the start. It was always in the way. I was always hitting my head on it, being that I did most of the dish doing. Not that it hurt. Just bugged the heck out of me. It also seemed to be windy in our house because I was always hearing those chimes. Quite often I would use the longer cord of the clacker to wrap up the little pipes so as to keep them from making NOISE. But sooner or later my wife would come along and unwrap them, and it would start all over again.
I just couldn't understand it. Win chimes are for outside, where the wind can create gentle tones of enjoyment, not inside to plague the inhabitants of your home. Plus, it didn't even fit the decor of our house, which according to my wife and apparently all women on the planet, is an unpardonable crime against all that is Holy.
So I sought to remove this hanging thorn from my side. I decided in December of 2006 to give it to my mother for Christmas.
My mother and father had moved to the town where we live. My mother likes sunflowers and uses them in her decorating. She has lots of things sunflower, so I thought it fitting that she receive it. After all, it would go better in her house than mine.
We went to my parents house to celebrate Christmas with the family. Just before we went I took the thing down, wrapped it, and when we got to her house, put it in the pile of gifts to be opened. Now you have to understand that my wife and I had had more than one little discussion about this wind chime. It seemed to always come up, and never in a good way.
We normally eat and then open gifts, which we did on this Christmas. We all sit in a big sort of circle and each take a turn opening a gift, that way we can all see what the other person got and their reaction. My mom opens my gift, the wind chime, and likes it. My wife sees it and does one of those double takes when she realizes it is her wind chime and then of course stares me down in disbelief. She could not believe I had given her treasure away. My mom, after an explanation of what was going on, wants to give it back. I, however, insist that it was a gift, and therefore, cannot be returned to the giver, no matter how much the givers wife is aggravated with the giver giving the gift. So my mom keeps it.
Then Christmas 2007 rolls around and, as always, we eat and then open gifts. When I open one of the gifts from my mom, what do I find but the very same wind chime I had tried so hard to rid myself of the year before. It was like a bad penny. It just kept turning up. My sister thought it was so funny that I was again saddled with the one of the things that aggravated me so much. Sisters are good that way.
Christmas 2008. My revenge. This year, the wind chime actually being mine, I decided to give it to my sister. Yes, the same one who enjoyed my dismay so much the year before. This year I wrote a note to go with it and placed it on the box with "Read First" written on it. This is what it said.
Legacy and Tradition
Legacy and Tradition are things thought of and considered only in the novels that we read in our leisure, and are mostly forgotten in the present. No one gives even the slightest thought as to their creation or preservation, only embracing them when they happen by chance, and then only perpetuating them when it seems fun or in their best interest to do so.
Having come to pass for two years does not a tradition make. Therefore, I give this gift with all the feeling of a tender moment, knowing that a tradition is, perhaps, about to be born. It all depends on you. If you hold and cherish this for the coming year, and choose to pass it to the next participant, you will have chosen wisely. Creating a thing of such grandeur and magnitude that the act itself will be spoken of in reverent whispers for years to come, if not for eternity. If not, if it goes they way of all forgotten thoughts only to become a “what could have been”, you will have chosen poorly, and let die something that is more than the sum of its parts, and the sands of time will weep for the loss.
I do not make this choice lightly, the choice of who will receive this gift, for I know not if you have the character and raw determination to see this through. Life or Death. Mortality or Immortality. Legacy and Tradition or Passing gift. These are the things at stake by your choice. Knowing that I need a person to give this to who will grasp the gravity of what could be, and be willing to pay the price demanded by the tradition gods, makes what I do an enormous burden, one I have agonized over for these past twelve months. In you I place my hopes and fears, dreams and terrors. What will be? Only time will give us that answer.
Depending on what you do a tradition will either die or prosper. No pressure.
We all had a rather good laugh. I thought it to be especially funny, now that my sister had the chime. It was my turn to revel in the hilarity of the receiving of this thing by my sister. She had to admit it was funny.
Christmas 2009. My sister decides to give the wind chime to my wife. How fitting, right. She is the one that was the catalyst for this whole thing anyway. But by now we had an entirely different house we had just finished building, so even my wife thought (thank goodness) that it didn't "go". The note my sister wrote is as follows.
Legacy and Tradition
Christmas 2009
“Legacy and Tradition are things thought of and considered only in the novels that we read in our leisure, and are mostly forgotten in the present.” I was told this when I was graciously given this gift and for the last 12 months it has weighed heavy on my mind. “Should I continue this tradition?” I thought to myself? How will I ever be able to hold true to the events that may become? Will I be worthy of this benevolent experience? I truly wanted to be able to say, yes.
So, with that in mind, I am passing the Legacy and Tradition of passing this gift to you. Like the benefactor before me, I have not made this choice lightly. 12 months of careful consideration have gone into this choice. As I was told “Life or Death. Mortality or Imortality. Legacy and Tradition or passing the gift”. These are the things that went with this decision. I choose Life. I choose Mortality and I choose Legacy and Tradition! I hope you will choose wisely also for this is not something to take lightly. Keeping this gift safe and protected for 12 months is a duty fitting for someone who has the desire to keep Legacy and Tradition alive!
“Depending on what you da a tradition will either die or prosper. No pressure.”
And so it sat somewhere in the depths of my wife's three quarters of our closet for the last year. Then Christmas 2010. My wife chooses to give it to our oldest son. This is the note that went with it this year.
Legacy and Tradition
Christmas 2010
“Legacy and Tradition are the things thought of and considered only in the novels we read in our leisure, and are mostly forgotten in the present.” For the 5th year, the tradition of the windchime has endured. For twelve long months I have agonized over who should receive this gift. After careful consideration, I came to the conclusion, that our first-born should take a larger part in our family legacy. For it is the next generation that will continue the traditions of our ancestors. The “grandeur and magnitude of this act will be spoken of in revernt whispers for years to come, if not for eternity.”
Now it is up to you. Will you have the integrity to fulfill your obligation? Remember: “Life or Death. Mortality or Immortality. Legacy and tradition or Passing Gift.” You must make your choice just as I made mine. Only time will tell if you will rise to the task at hand. Will you make us proud? Or will you make us morn for traditions that once were? “In you I place my hopes and fears, dreams and terrors.”
“Depending on what you do a tradition will either die or prosper. No pressure.”
Now we wait to see what my son will do. He seemed like he enjoyed being given the "gift", like he enjoyed being thought worthy enough to be included as a keeper of the chime. I hope so, because I would hate if it ended with him. We will know in 12 months.
El Toro Negro
1 comment:
WOW! How cool!
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